J.K.L Stories

Mother’s Day
May 07, 2022

Mother’s Day

Being a mother is no easy task. You juggle a lot of activities and you wear a lot of hats, walk in a lot of shoes and try to keep your head on top of the water at the of the day to catch a breath for yourself. This is especially harder if you are a single mother. Also, being a single mother to a teenage boy doesn’t help very much either, does it? It is a pulling moment type of situation every single day, to be completely honest with you.

Of course, as no one is perfect, nor am I. I might not have put in 110% towards being the best mother every day. And I don’t even know if that’s even possible. Society has a way of adding unnecessary pressure towards women and mothers and make them feel guilty if they don’t come perfect at the end of every day.

However, the best reward is the love my son and I have for each other. I am proud of the person he is becoming and I know he always has his best intentions at heart. I hope one day he will understand how much love I have for him!

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House Of Pumpkin And Crane Event for Mother’s Day
May 04, 2022

House Of Pumpkin And Crane Event for Mother’s Day

As Mother’s Day is coming up this weekend, everyone is excited about this cheerful event. I am also delighted to be partnering with Crane for this weekend’s Single Mom Pop-up event!

It’s a celebratory gathering, where we invite everyone, from single mothers, parents, divorcees, to even the blissfully committed, to open up their hearts and engage in our informal therapy narrative.

There will be open sharing sessions, a special presentation by Cheryl Lee and, the cherry on the cake and my personal favorite ace up the sleeve, a House of Pumpkin knitting workshop!

I will be thrilled to be conducting knitting lessons for you, at only $20 per pax! We will combine social interaction with fun and engaging knitting information. In the end, you will have gained not only a new acquired skill set, but also create meaningful memories.

Another exciting news is that I had an open conversation with Ayodya from Crane’s editorial team! We invite you to take a look and read this heartfelt article about single moms turned entrepreneurs. You will learn bits and pieces about @sash_in_singapore and myself and how we managed to survive the break-ups that ended us up as single mothers.

Click on the link below my profile to discover the article!
https://www.wearecrane.com/stories/category/love

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Understanding our children
May 03, 2022

Understanding our children

Parents always want what is best for their children. Or at least what is best in their opinion.


However, the tough reality is that parents have their own struggles to deal with and, with their busy schedules trying to juggle as many hats as possible, we barely see our children every day as much as we would like to. And in this lengthy process, they grow up and form their own personalities, preferences and dislikes.
They become unique individuals who have their own thoughts, feelings and who act accordingly to their beliefs. For them, parents become the authority figures who appear to only know how to set high standards and impossible expectations, without knowing if the child met any hurdles along the way.


And this is where frustration and miscommunication come into the limelight. On both sides, there is a skewed perception of the other’s lack of cooperation or unwillingness to come to terms. Parents tend to believe that the children are rebellious or misbehaving on purpose, but have we really put in the effort to walk a mile in their shoes? Imagine trying to understand and discover this big world and constantly having someone in your ear nagging you about how you should become a high achiever. It is not too pleasant, is it?


So, one question arises in all of this gray situation – do we really understand our children or do we start any argument having in mind that we always know it best?


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Happy Birthday, My Darling Friend
April 30, 2022

Happy Birthday, My Darling Friend

It’s been 15 years now, since I first met this outstanding woman. It all started at work and I remember that the very first time I saw, I felt such a deep hate, it was despicable. However, I can’t pinpoint the exact reason why I felt that. I must’ve been judging her without actually knowing her.

Now, thinking back, I can’t even remember in what circumstance we actually became friends. This is hilarious!

During these 15 years of true, devoted and meaningful friendship, I was lucky enough to get to know her real self and she is so beautiful inside and out!

Sadly, we don’t meet as much as we would love to, since we’re both full time working mothers and our schedules clash most of the time. However, if I’m lucky, I usually get to meet her once or twice a year, but I would really love for this to change for the better and meet more often.

I will admit that there are times when I definitely think that I find excuses for myself for not putting in the extra effort to meet her more often. Or maybe I do this because she has this incredible ability to see right through me and read me like a book. She has truly become my walking conscience. I can’t even think to tell her a lie because she spots it from a mile away!

There were many times when I couldn’t deliver her the knitwear I promised I would, due to a thousand reasons. And even though I’m not sure if she’s disappointed in me or not, she never fails to be supportive and understanding. She has such a big heart and is so selfless! Every time I need help forthe kids models, she never hesitates to step in. She is always available to talk or answer any of my questions, the best she can. We could talk for hours and not get bored by each other.

Sometimes I take a trip down the guilt lane and I wonder if I don’t somehow take her for granted, because she is so kind and thoughtful. Nevertheless, I am utterly grateful for all of the happy and tough moments we shared together and I am blessed to have her as my friend.

Happy belated birthday and Happy Mother’s Day, my darling friend!

 

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Growing Up
April 26, 2022

Growing Up

I have started my business with the utmost pure intentions and with the right reasons in mind.
However, along the way, I lost sight of what is truly important.

Being betrayed is never a fun experience, especially when it comes from someone close. I felt really overwhelmed and uncertain of everything around me. As if I wasn’t sure of anything anymore.

I remember a thing she said to me: `Friends come and go, always think of yourself and your needs first!`
I know that human beings have a certain inborn selfishness. I never truly thought that people so close to you cand betray you like this.
To make you first believe and rely on them, only to stab you in the back and to show you their true colors.

So, all I want to say is that if you want to succeed in life, you have to do it yourself! You shouldn’t depend on anyone. Of course, it is great if you found someone reliable and loyal, but if not, you have to be ready to do it by yourself.

Believe in yourself first!
It was a hard lesson to learn, but I will come out if it stronger and with more zest for success!

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Upcoming Mother’s Day
April 07, 2022

Upcoming Mother’s Day

Just one more month to Mother’s Day and it got me thinking….

Mothers are the heart and soul of the society. They give to us the precious gift of life, they raise and educate us and always believe in us, even when we don’t.

I am blessed to have such a loving, caring and devoted mother. She is the one person I know I can turn to no matter what, even if it’s simply for a small advice or for a casual talk. She is my pillar and I am forever thankful for the strong and beautiful relationship that we share.

She is also beyond anything I had hoped or imagined a grandmother would be. I truly understood her completely only when I became a mother myself. She loves my son without measure and I am thrilled that they enjoy the journey of life together.

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📸 SweetEscape Photography 📸
March 31, 2022

📸 SweetEscape Photography 📸

Two years have passed since we have not been able to travel due to the Covid pandemic.

Even so, during these two years, I have been a tourist in my own country, admiring its beauty. This was the perfect opportunity to look for unique Singaporean locations to have as background for my photoshoot.

Sweet Escape has offered me the help I needed through their talented photographer and now I have some amazing photos for my Instagram account and websites.

Booking a session with Sweet Escape could not be easier and their selection of photographers is especially good with children. You can rest assure that your little ones will look stunning in photos. I am so excited for my next session with them!

Use the code KDFJU during check out for 15% OFF your photography package + free all photo!

P/S: My very first photoshoot session with SweetEscape was in Bali.

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Happy Birthday My Love
March 02, 2022

Happy Birthday My Love

 

Happy Birthday, My Love!

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for being such an amazing partner! Thank you for being always by my side for all the ups and downs and for tolerating my nonsense which I am working to get rid off.

I am truly grateful for you! You always amaze me and I look up to you for so many reasons! I know I can rely on you and please know that you can always confide in me, as I will always be by your side to cheer you on!

Love You.

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Covid Birthday
February 27, 2022

Covid Birthday

 

Finally, the clock stroke 12 and it made it real – this is how I was going to celebrate my birthday.

Two days ago, my test for Covid-19 came back positive…such a bummer. I feel like being sick has some different levels of hardship: being sick is already bad on its own, being sick and alone definitely raises the bar, BUT being sick and alone on your actual birthday is by far the worst!

This was the first time in all of my 35 years of existence when I celebrated my birthday all by myself and it made be more introspective. I reflected more on my life, my choices, what got me in the place that I at right now and how I should always strive to improve myself for me and for the loved ones surrounding me.

Also, this is the moment that reveals who your true friends are, who you can rely on and who is there just for the show.

Covid made me more independent and it showed me how strong I am, because when hardship bangs on your door, you can only rely on yourself!

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Happy Birthday Shaan
February 20, 2022

Happy Birthday Shaan

To: @shaan_songss

The craziest girl in my Life
The amazing yiyi to my Jake
The awesome Mommie to my Godson

Happy birthday, girl! There’s no better friend than you, and there's no one I would rather share my thoughts and secrets with.

You are a true companion and a great woman. I wish you only the best, lots of love, health and that every one of your dreams may come true.

I’ll always be grateful that I was blessed with someone as special as you in my life. You’re my soul sister and best friend forever, girl

I will always be there for you, and I know I can count on you too. Love ya!

xoxo
JK & DJ

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1st Photoshoot for 2022
February 19, 2022

1st Photoshoot for 2022

For the first photoshoot of the year, we got Shaan and her family to join us. We went to the marvelous Garden by the bay flower dome for the shoot. The décor was absolutely breathtaking, the colors and the atmosphere were perfect. I am so grateful for this memory of us!

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Chinese New Year 4th Day
February 04, 2022

Chinese New Year 4th Day

For the 4th day, we enjoyed a wonderfully cooked dinner with my extended family, my godson, son and Shaan. It is so important for me to be able to spend time together, to keep our connections tight and to always be there for one another. There is nothing more important than the great family values.

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Chinese New Year 3rd Day
February 03, 2022

Chinese New Year 3rd Day

We like to celebrate our happy days around here, so for the 3rdday of the Chinese New Year we organized our yearly reunion dinner. It’s been just Henry and I, but we made the best out of our time together. We really look forward to spend more quality moments and build an amazing life for us.

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Chinese New Year 2nd Day
February 02, 2022

Chinese New Year 2nd Day

For the second day of the Chinese New Year, we stayed at home for the entire day. We didn’t feel so comfortable roaming around or meeting up with friends, since the Covid cases were getting at higher rates every day. We enjoyed a quite time together and made plans for the year ahead.

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Chinese New Year 1st Day
February 01, 2022

Chinese New Year 1st Day

 

Because of the Covid restrictions, we are only allowed to visit one family per day. I really don’t like this rule at all! So, early in the morning, we all went to my aunt’s house to enjoy a game of Majong. It was tranquil and really enjoyed the laid-back atmosphere.

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Reunion dinner
January 31, 2022

Reunion dinner

 

As per usual, for the Chinese New Year’s Eve, we had my aunt over for dinner with us. It is always lovely to have her here, we look up to her so much and we care deeply for her. We talked about each other, how we’ve been since we last met and we made plans to spend even more time together.

 

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The Real Benefits of Knitting
January 16, 2022

The Real Benefits of Knitting

Why spending money on knitting is truly worth it

Knitting has become a popular hobby nowadays, especially since the age groups vary from preschoolers to seniors. Have you ever wondered why do people spend money on knitting classes? (Hint: House of Pumpkin offers knitting classes, one-on-one or in group sessions).

We have the answer for you - besides the beautiful product that results from this activity, there are some real benefits that come along once you dive into the art of knitting.

Knitting Benefits for Students

Starting from a young age, children develop their sense of reality, as well as their imagination and free artistic spirit. For children’s brain development, knitting reduces stress and increases the overall health. Moreover, knitting can overcome the effects of negative events, such as the stress from tests, bullying or isolation.

Moreover, knitting both for kids and students reduces anxiety, lowers the blood pressure and improves their motor skills. The fingers will move faster and the cartilage levels will improve.

It is especially recommended to knit in order to sharpen the kids and students’ attention span and their coordination. Also, they will learn to stay focused for longer periods of time and be prepared for more difficult tasks in the real world.

Building Up Character And Uniqueness

Encouraging kids and young adults to start knitting or to continue to pursue this hobby has other aces up the sleeve for them to benefit from. For example, through knitting everyone can create their own product. The product will have their own take on it, their own vision and a unique touch. The younger generation will learn that through expressing their own self will achieve uniqueness and a true sense of identity.

Moreover, joining a knitting club will help them connect with people who share the same hobby and perhaps other interests. They will improve their communication skills and understand that spending time doing a proactive, fun, creative and interactive activity will benefit them on the long run.

And one of the most important aspects: they will learn that there is no real need to spend a ton of money on designer items, such as bags, scarves or sweaters, when you can design and knit one of your own. You can add your favorite color in the pattern and shape that will best enhance your features and your preferences. Every kid and young adult will be proud of their achievement and will wear the final product with joy. Being your unique self is truly achievable through the art of knitting!

Benefits Of Knitting for the Working Adults

The work load and stress can easily add up and make every one of us feel like we need a serious break. Taking up knitting classes can relax you and take your mind off of the tasks that wait for you the next day. Your thoughts will stop racing and you will be finally able to enjoy the present moment.

Moreover, it is well known that after a relaxing period, the productivity levels will improve and you will feel more motivated to go after your goal and achieve it.

Another benefit of knitting for adults is that people become more aware of their cognitive functioning, while feeling encouraged to communicate with their inner child and let go of anything that is blocking their creativity.

Seniors Should Knit More Often

Seniors are exceptionally interested in knitting and they sure do know best, as wisdom comes with age! There are numerous benefits to knitting for seniors, especially when it comes to their mental health. Some seniors are lonely or may feel so, while some are anxious and stressed. Well, all of these negative factors decrease once they start knitting. Their minds concentrate on the task and the blood pressure is also reducing while doing so.

Seniors should also be encouraged to join a knitting class, so that they could interact and socialize. Their sense of loneliness and isolation will definitely reduce and this will offer them a sense of joyfulness.

For degenerative disease, which increase in number every year for seniors everywhere around the globe, knitting comes with real benefits. For diseases such as Parkinson, the uncontrolled and repetitive movements, that can become exhausting, are alleviated, as well, as the mind is given more happiness. Knitting is also important for delaying the onset of dementia, another common health issue for our seniors.

In the end, knitting unites and bonds people with the same hobby and portrays a world of creativity, fun and acceptance of one’s self because of its uniqueness and undeniable beauty! 

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January 09, 2022

BENEFITS OF KNITTING ON THE MENTAL HEALTH

There numerous benefits of knitting which apply to the mental health. Some of the benefit factors include reducing anxiety and the feeling of loneliness and isolation, as well as lowering blood pressure after facing adversities and stress. Meeting new people who share the same interest in knitting will create a sense of belonging and alleviate any negative thoughts regarding isolating oneself.

Moreover, with neurodegenerative illnesses, such as Parkinson, it has been observed a decrease in the uncontrolled movements of hands and feet. It slows down the onset of dementia as well.

The beauty of knitting is that, through its creative process, it increases the sense of wellbeing and helps with the serotonin release, making you feel happy and cheerful.

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January 06, 2022

Why are knitting class so expensive

Quality over quantity, right? Even so, people are often asking me why should they choose knitting? Or why learning to knit a small accessory is expensive?

The truth is that everything you learn has a price, depending on the skills you are gaining and the lifelong benefits that hobby is offering you.

With knitting, you’re not just paying to learn how to knit only one accessory, but you’re giving away some money in exchange of acquiring knitting skills which you could apply further along with any other knitting project. Plus, you get to keep the bag, which is a bonus item!

Also, House of Pumpkin conducts knitting sessions at your convenience, so that everything is within your reach and you won’t have to travel to attend the knitting classes.

We are excited to meet you and to share with you our vast knowledge and experience in the beautiful and mesmerizing art of knitting!

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1st Day Of Secondary School
January 04, 2022

1st Day Of Secondary School

This new chapter is here and Jake started his first day of secondary school. I was nervous for him, but I know he will do just fine, make new friends and amazing memories. I wish you all the best in this new school, my darling boy, I am always here for you!

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2022 Catch Up with ex colleagues
January 03, 2022

2022 Catch Up with ex colleagues

Zac and his partner invited us at their house, where we spent a lovely time together. They cooked a delicious dinner for us, we drank some tasty wine and I finally taught them the art of knitting. We enjoyed each other’s company and I hope we will get together soon.

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First photo with Godson and Darling
January 02, 2022

First photo with Godson and Darling

The first photo of 2022 is with our Godson and Shaan. We’ve started the year great and I am happy we were able to spend some quality time with them, especially since I love taking photos of our family and dear ones. I always wish the best and the utmost amazing memories for my extended family and I hope every single one of their dreams will come true.

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Happy New Year
January 01, 2022

Happy New Year

A new year is here and I am looking forward to what’s in store for us. I’ve just had lunch and finished the preparations for Jake’s new school starting period which is 2 days’ time. I feel energized and optimistic about this next year and I hope our loved ones will be safe and happy.

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